Wedding Planning is HARD

Let's Face it:  planning a wedding isn't always a walk in the park.

Sure, it's exciting and inspiring to check out all the details, dresses, jewelry, exotic locations and honeymoon destinations.  But there is a lot to do and everyone and their mother (and your mother) seems to have an opinion about your day.

If you don't watch out for these common mistakes, you could end up with a wedding day nightmare.  On the other hand, if you watch out for these mistakes, having an unforgettable wedding day where everything runs smoothly and you have the time of your life is almost guaranteed.

MISTAKE #1 - Having No Gap of Time Between Your Ceremony and Reception

In life ... and especially when it comes to planning a wedding ... everything takes longer than you think.

If you have your ceremony and reception at the same location, or if you leave exactly enough time for the 8 minute drive between the church and the reception hall you could windup stressed, miserable and end up with a wedding album where you are frowning on every page.

Do yourself a favor and allow MORE time than you think you will need between the ceremony and the reception.  Your guests are creative enough to find something to do with themselves.

Use your wedding professionals as the expert resources they are.  Ask them how long they recommend for getting ready, receiving lines and photos.

MISTAKE #2 -- Hiring Amateurs or Friends for Your Wedding Day

Don't get me wrong, I'm a big fan of including your guests in the wedding day.  By all means, have Aunt Sally sing "Ave Maria" for your ceremony or ask your brother to perform a song he wrote on guitar.

But don't expect amateurs and hobbyists to deliver a professional performance at your wedding.

There will always be gaps. They will miss some of those important moments.  An amateur won't know what to do when something goes wrong ... which usually means things get worse.

If you like your friends and family, and you would like to keep it that way, don't hire them for your wedding day.

** WARNING:  If you decide to hire an amateur or a talented friend to provide a service for your wedding day, make sure you adjust your expectations.  If a less than perfect performance in that area is going to make you unhappy, please don't do it.

MISTAKE  #3 -- Planning the Ceremony LAST

Here's a true story:

Jill and Kevin found the perfect wedding location at a rustic winery on the hilltop near the couple's home.  They plunked down a big deposit, booked the band and photographer.  Then they started looking at churches.

None of the Catholic churches in the area would agree to marry them because they weren't members.  The beautiful Methodist Church was already booked up on their date and the only church available was in a run down school with no heat or air conditioning.

Their parents were outraged that Jill and Kevin weren't getting married in the Catholic Church.  The couple faced the painful decision of dealing with parental rage and an ugly, overheated church or losing a large chunk of change in lost deposits.

If you are planning your ceremony in  location separate form your reception, make sure you can find an available, acceptable church or space BEFORE you book your venue.

If you have your heart set on a particular church or minister, make sure they are open before you put down your deposit.  Otherwise, you can find yourself facing some tough decisions.

MISTAKE #4 -- Not Considering the Weather

If you don't carefully consider the effect of the weather on your wedding day ... for your specific location at that specific time of year ... you can end up with a wedding day disaster.

True Story ...

Sara and Bob were getting married at beautiful Mills Mansion on the banks of a river.  Beautiful views, gorgeous mansion, amazing gardens nearby.

Of course, they imagined their wedding day on a perfect June afternoon.  Instead, they ended up with a monsoon.

They didn't have sides for the tent, so the guests got soaked.  The DJ moved onto a tiny dance floor to protect his equipment, which meant there was no room for dancing.  Everyone got slogged through the mud for five miserable hours.

Before you choose your location, consider the worst case scenario.

What if it rains?  What of it is blistering hot? 

Make sure you are comfortable with your ceremony and reception location in EVERY possible situation.

Make sure your dream wedding will still hold up under the worst the weather can possibly throw at you.  That way your day will rock no matter what!

MISTAKE #5 -- Having an Unrealistic Day Of Timeline ... or NO Timeline at All

Everything takes more time than you think.

Even some of our smartest brides, the ones who are always on time for everything, end up rushed and panicked on their wedding day because they didn't allow extra time.

If you fall behind schedule on your wedding day, there is no catching up.  You can't get those minutes and hours back.  Your party ends at the contracted time and there is nothing more painful than watching a bride who doesn't relax and enjoy her day.

Get realistic estimates for the time it takes to do something, then add on some extra time for good measure.

MISTAKE #6 -- Trying to Please Everyone

Every wedding website and book on wedding planning seems to know the "right way" to plan a wedding.  You're family and friends are more than happy to tell you what THEY think you should do.

Trying to make everyone happy is exhausting.  Plus, it's an effort that's doomed to failure.

Choose your battles.  If something is really important to you, stick to your guns.  You wont be able to make everyone happy anyway.  Make sure you make yourself happy.


If you've already made some of these mistakes, never fear.  Now that you know you can fix them.  Just being prepared is the best way to avoid wedding day disaster.

And if you haven't made any of these mistakes ... CONGRATULATIONS!!!  Learn from the bride sisters who have gone before you.  Have fun planning your wedding and decide to make it your best day ever, no matter what!

You're marrying the one you love.  In the end, how can that ever be a disaster?

Happy Planning!

Cindy Lieber
Accredited Event Designer
OC Brides Event Coordination & Planning
www.corporateweddingplanner.com
Cindy@ocbrides.com
(714) 970-6380

P.S. Do you need help finding the right vendors or creating your timeline? I would love to help, just shoot me an email.

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Hiring the Right Team

Hiring the right team is critical to planning your dream wedding…and it can also be quite stressful.

How do you find the right match for you? How do you know who to trust? Where do you go for advice?

First of all, this is not an easy task and it’s totally normal for couples to feel overwhelmed, frustrated or confused.

It’s not like you plan a wedding every day! This is all probably brand new to you, so be patient with yourself.

So how do you pick the wedding vendors who are right for YOU?

First of all, STYLE, PERSONALITY, and PROFESSIONALISM are the biggest things to look for. You want to hire vendors who your guests will feel comfortable with...because the more comfortable your guests are the more FUN they have. Each vendors should also match the style and vision of your wedding.

Here are 8 Must Ask Questions to ask ALL your potential wedding professionals before booking:

1. How many wedding do you do per year? How much experience to you have?

This is an extremely important question. Ideally, your wedding professional should have ample experience specifically with weddings. Not only will they be more skilled in their craft, this also makes them a valuable source of information and ensures that your wedding day goes smoothly.

2. How much do you cost?

Price is often relative, especially when you factor in experience, reputation and expert skill. Generally, the most talented professionals have a higher price tag because they are worth it.

3. How much is the deposit?

Most often the deposit will be 50% upfront and the balance at least 7 days prior to the wedding.

4. What specifically is included in that cost?

Because packages often vary, it's likely that you won't be able to compare one vendor exactly to the next without doing a little figuring. The lowest cost isn't necessarily the best deal; some higher quotes include services that you have to pay extra for in other packages. Make sure you take this into account.

5. What happens if I cancel? What happens if you cancel?

Find out if your deposit is refundable under any conditions. Does the wedding professional have a back up plan if something happens to them?

6. Do you use a contract?

If the answer is No, RUN! A contract is designed to protect both you and the wedding professional. Don't settle for a verbal agreement that won't hold up in court.

7. Are there any additional fees?

Taxes, service charges and travel fees can add up quickly. Make sure you understand exactly what is included and if there are any other fees you will have to pay. This should be clearly defined in your contract.

8. Do you carry liability insurance?

The answer you are looking for is YES. This protects you in case of an unfortunate accident should occur on your wedding day. It's also a sign that this is a reputable business, since most "fly by night" operations don't invest in insurance.

One final bit of advice: READ YOUR CONTRACT. Make sure you understand everything that's written and ask questions if you don't. There IS no stupid question   ...  except the one you don't ask. Make sure you know the price as well as cancellation and refund policies.

GO WITH YOUR GUT.   If something feels "off" about the wedding vendor...you're probably right. Make sure you feel comfortable with him, you like him, and that his personality will be a good blend with your guests and reflect the tone of your wedding.


Remember: if chosen wisely, the right wedding vendors will give you expert help and advice on every aspect of your wedding…for free!

Cindy Lieber
Accredited Event Designer
OC Brides Event Coordination
www.weddingplanneroc.com
Cindy@ocbrides.com

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OC Brides Wants to Help You DIY Your Wedding

In our 15+ years in the wedding industry we've seen A LOT when it comes to weddings.  The good, the bad, ... and the UGLY.

We've learned what it takes to plan an unforgettable, fun, dance-till-you drop wedding reception that is totally "you" without being cheesy, and how to avoid a BORING party where no one dances and your guests leave early.

 We've had a GREAT time getting to know our couples and helping them celebrate one of the most important events in their lives.

Honestly? I think we have the best job in the world.  And now it's time for us to GIVE BACK.

Join our Mailing List and find out what we have learned over the past 15 years!

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I want to share exactly what to do to have the wedding of your dreams...a fun, elegant party that really represents you and leaves your guests saying yours was the best wedding EVER.

If that sounds good, you should stick around and read these emails very closely.

I've put together the ultimate recipe for dream wedding entertainment: Six Easy Steps To An Unforgettable Wedding in this series of emails.

Here's what you'll learn:

1) How to Find the Right Vendors for Your Unforgettable Wedding.

2) 6 Common Mistakes to Avoid in Planning Your Wedding

3) My 14 Favorite Unique (and Cheap!) Ideas to Make Your Wedding Totally "You" and an Unforgettable Experience For You and Your Guests.

4) How to Guarantee the FUN at Your Wedding.

5) 5 Insider Secrets for a Flawless, Relaxing Wedding Day

You'll receive two emails a week over the next three weeks. If you don't find them useful...  or if you get sick of my perky emails...  you can unsubscribe at any time by clicking the link at the bottom of the email.

That's it! So keep your eyes peeled for the next email in a day or two.

Until next time...

Cindy Lieber

www.weddingplannoeroc.com

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BRIDES: 6 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Planning Your Wedding

Let’s face it: planning a wedding isn’t always a walk in the park.

Sure, it’s exciting and inspiring to check out all the details, dresses, jewelry, exotic locations and honeymoon destinations. But there is a lot to do and everyone and their mother (and your mother) seems to have an opinion about your day.

If you don’t watch out for these common mistakes, you could end up with a wedding day nightmare. On the other hand, if you watch out for these mistakes, having an unforgettable wedding day where everything runs smoothly and you have the time of your life is almost guaranteed.

MISTAKE #1 – Having No Gap of Time Between Your Ceremony and Reception.

In life…and especially when it comes to planning a wedding…everything takes longer than you think.

If you have your ceremony and reception at the same location…

Or if you leave exactly enough time for the 8 minute drive between the church and the reception hall...

You will be stressed, miserable and end up with a wedding album where you are frowning on every page.

Do yourself a favor and allow MORE time than you think you will need between the ceremony and reception. Your guests are creative enough to find something to do with themselves.

Use your wedding professionals as the expert resources they are. Ask them how long they recommend for getting ready, receiving lines and photos.

MISTAKE #2 – Hiring Amateurs or Friends for Your Wedding Day.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a big fan of including your guests in the wedding day. By all means, have Aunt Sally sing “Ave Maria” for your ceremony or ask your brother to perform a song he wrote on guitar.

But don’t expect amateurs and hobbyists to deliver a professional performance at your wedding.

There will be awkward gaps. They will miss some of those important moments. An amateur won’t know what to do when something goes wrong…which usually means things get worse.

If you like your friends and family…and you’d like to keep it that way…don’t hire them for your wedding day.

*WARNING: If you decide to hire an amateur or a talented friend to provide a service for your wedding day, make sure you adjust your expectations. If less than perfect performance in that area is going to make you unhappy, please don’t do it.

MISTAKE #3 – Planning the Ceremony LAST.

Here’s a true story:

Jill and Kevin found the perfect wedding location at a rustic winery on the hilltop near the couple’s home. They plunked down a big deposit, booked the band and photographer. Then they started looking at churches…

None of the Catholic churches in the area would agree to marry them because they weren’t members. The beautiful Methodist Church was already booked up on their date and the only church available was in a run down school house with no heat or air conditioning.

Their parents were outraged that Jill and Kevin weren’t getting married in a Catholic church. The couple faced the painful decision of dealing with parental rage and an ugly, overheated church or losing a large chunk of change in lost deposits.

If you are planning a ceremony in a location separate from your reception, make sure you can find an available, acceptable church or space BEFORE you book your venue.

If you have your heart set on a particular church or minister, make sure they are open before you put down your deposit. Otherwise, you can find yourself facing some tough decisions.

MISTAKE #4 – Not Considering the Weather.

If you don’t carefully consider the effect of the weather on your wedding day…for your specific location at that specific time of year…you can end up with a wedding day disaster.

True story…

Sara and Bob were getting married at beautiful Mills Mansion on the banks of a river. Beautiful views, gorgeous mansion, amazing gardens nearby.

Of course, they imagined their wedding day on a perfect June afternoon. Instead, they ended up with a monsoon.

They didn’t have sides for the tent, so the guests got soaked. The DJ moved onto the tiny dance floor to protect his equipment, which meant there was no room for dancing. Everyone slogged through the mud for five miserable hours.

Before you chose your location, consider the worst case scenario.

What if it rains? What if it is blistering hot? What if it snows?

Make sure you are comfortable with your ceremony and reception location in EVERY possible situation.

Make sure your dream wedding will still hold up under the worst the weather can possibly throw at you. That way you know your day will rock no matter what.

MISTAKE #5 – Having an Unrealistic Day Of Timeline…or No Timeline at All.

Everything takes more time than you think.

Even some of our smartest brides, the ones who are always on time for everything, end up rushed and panicked on their wedding day because they didn’t allow extra time.

If you fall behind schedule on your wedding day, there is no catching up. You can’t get those minutes and hours back. Your party ends at the contracted time and there is nothing more painful than watching a bride who doesn’t relax and enjoy her day.

Get realistic estimates for the time it takes to do something, then add on some extra time for good measure.

MISTAKE #6 – Trying to Please Everyone

Every wedding website and book on wedding planning seems to know the “right way” to do plan a wedding. You’ve family and friends are more than happy to tell you what THEY think you should do.

Trying to make everyone happy is exhausting. Plus, it’s an effort that’s doomed to failure.

Choose your battles. If something is really important to you, stick to your guns. You won’t be able to make everyone happy anyway. Make sure you make yourself happy.

If you’ve already made some of these mistakes, never fear. Now that you know you can fix them. Just being prepared is the best way to avoid a wedding day disaster.

And if you haven’t made any of these mistakes…CONGRATULATIONS! Learn from the bride sisters who have gone before you. Have fun planning your wedding and decide to make it your best day ever, no matter what.

You’re marrying the one you love. In the end, how can that ever be a disaster?

Happy planning!

P.S. If you need help planning your wedding or simply coordinating the day so you can stay stress-free, contact me!

www.weddingplanneroc.com

Cindy Lieber

Cindy@ocbrides.com

Stacey O'Byrne of Pivot Point Advantage gave OC Brides members an amazing opportunity to learn how she built a 7 figure business from word of mouth marketing!  She is a speaker, trainer, best selling author, NLP Master Trainer, and a US Army Veteran.

Stacey's passion is working with dynamic sales people & entrepreneurs and helping them make their dreams a reality.  She is truly passionate about helping people aspire to be the best they can be while turning off the negative mind chatter and limiting beliefs.

Some notes from the seminar ....
"Remove your But's and Step into your ASK!".  She says you must Believe in Yourself!  It never hurts to ask for what you need such as a referral.  Forget about the Buts that keep you from asking.  Remember to mention "A good referral for me to day is _____________" when networking!

Her NLP training teaches you how to adopt another person's listening behavior. Understanding this behavior will ensure the other person understands what you are saying at a deeper level.  3 of the forms of listening include Visual, Auditory, and Feeling.  Pay attention to how the other person speaks.  Do they say "I see what you're saying or do they say I hear you?".  Speak in their language and your communication with others will be greatly enhanced!

Check out her website at www.pivotpointadvantage.com ; In addition to her book that sells on amazon, she offers 1 day seminars as well as consulting services.

VENDORS: Affiliate Opportunity = Easy Money & Better Networking

Hello OC Brides Members ....

Because you are a member, I thought you would be interested in becoming an affiliate for the event: OC's Best Bridal Networking Event at the Yorba Linda Country Club.

The bigger the attendance, the better the networking and it means more opportunities for YOU!  It's a WIN WIN!

Earn 20% of each ticket price simply by referring other new vendors to our event. When a non-member purchases a ticket, we track it!

If you tell a few people that register for the event, you could earn your admission FREE!!

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OC Brides October Networking Event

Join us in a very personal, intimate atmosphere beginning at 6:30 in the evening, Wednesday October 28th for an OC Brides Networking Event at the Velvet Lounge...